(In)sensitivity

There are times when we are at the receiving end of hurtful questions and insensitive remarks. How do you deal with such questions and with the people who throw them at you?

  1. You take offense and give a fitting reply.
  2. You are shocked beyond words while you fumble like an idiot.
  3. You choose to ignore the question/remark.

Just yesterday, a lady at the bus stop asked me a rather rude question (the details of which I shall not divulge for obvious reasons). I mumbled a monosyllabic answer. The very fact that I answered her and did not lose my head left me quite surprised; because it is so unlike me.  Perhaps the question left me baffled or it is just that I am more prone to be hurt than be angry.

What makes it worse is the fact is the people asking you such questions mostly do not realize that it could be hurtful. To them they are indulging in a polite conversation. A majority of the people do not see the distinction between prying and polite conversation.

Come to think of it  the best way to deal with these people would be to just ignore them. They are just those unfortunate people whose tiny minds cannot comprehend sensitivity.

 

 

The story of an online stalker!

She was a dreamy girl in her late teens living on a staple diet of Mills and Boon and Bollywood rom-com movies. She secretly hoped one day she would bump into the boy and then she would know he is the one. “Grow up and stop reading that many chick-lits” her best friend told her half-amused half-irritated with her. But no sensible advice ever found their way to her romance-obsessed head.

One Saturday afternoon she walked out of the hostel gates to go to the city. She was walking purposefully towards the bus stop. She looked up to see the motorbike entering the college gate. Then she saw the guy on the bike who held the bike’s handle in one hand and the other hand gently brushed his hair. The glass perched on his nose gave him an intelligent look. She stood still staring at him in awe. Their eyes met for a second before he whizzed past her. For her this felt like divine intervention. God was helping her find the love of her life and there was no way this could miss this cue.

Monday morning she walked on the college corridors scanning every nook and corner of the college hoping to spot him. But luck evaded her. Crestfallen she walked up the stairs towards her department. In the department she found a group of people looking at the notice board. “Perhaps checking their internal averages”  she thought. Just as she was about to walk to her class, she spotted him standing in front of the notice board talking animatedly to a friend.

“Who is that guy in red t-shirt?” she asked her friend as a matter of factly. “Somebody from the final year” her friend replied in a disinterested tone. “If he is in the final year, he is probably only here for another month or so” she thought. She cursed her luck for not   ever noticing him before. Nevertheless she made a few inquiries here and there to find more information about him. By the end of two days from the day she had noticed him she found out his name, place, birthday and even the University Seat Number!

The remaining few days of the semester went in a blink when people opened their almost forgotten books which had collected dust throughout the semester. She also found herself trying to study and grumbling most of the time since very little in the syllabus made sense to her. Her pursuit for him took a back seat for the time being.

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It had been a week since the new semester started. She has already begun sulking. There was no way she could introduce herself to him now that he had passed out of college. The only good thing about the semester was the hostels had Wi-Fi connection. The internet became  her best friend in times of distress. The internet provided solace to her mind and soul.

One day during her browsing session, she logged into the then reigning social networking site orkut.com. She read messages on her scrapbook, replied to a few and visited a few friends profiles. A certain profile catches her eye, the name rings the bell. Without second thought, she clicked on the name. She waited with bated breath as the page loaded hoping that it is the profile of the person who she thought it is! She squeals in delight when it turned out to be ‘his’ profile. She thoroughly reads through his profile absorbing all the information it has to offer. His favorite music, movies, communities et al.

After stalking him online for several months, she musters the courage to drop him a message on his scrapbook. She impatiently waited for the reply to come.  After days of no reply, just when she has given up hope, he replies. Gradually messages go back and forth for a few days. She is on cloud nine since this development. It has turned out to be better than she had planned. 

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But not all goes as she thought it would. The frequency of the messages going back and forth decreases drastically with time. Days pass to months and months to years but the status relationship remains unchanged. A mere acquaintance is what they are. He is a workaholic or just disinterested she thinks bitterly. Perhaps  this is for the best she tells herself.

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Years passed. Now they no longer use the orkut.com. Facebook.com has now taken its place. They like/comment on each other’s statuses and photos. They are friends on facebook and acquaintances in reality.

One day his facebook profile announces that he is engaged. “Congratulations”  she writes on his wall.

Thank you!

WordPress.com gently reminded me this morning that it is been a year since I started blogging!

Firstly I am surprised to realize that it has been a year already. That means I am no longer a newbie now :) Secondly I overwhelmed to know that this venture did not turn out to be  like the many initiatives/ideas that I start excitedly but gradually throw it to the dark corners where it collects dust.

I had my doubts when I started this blog….what I will write about, will I ever have readers. Much to my surprise I have found topics to write about and when I ran out of topics I cooked up a few ;) I was even more surprised when I had readers and followers. The word ‘Followers’ makes me feel like a celebrity ;)

I owe a big ‘Thank You’ to the readers (including the lurkers) who take time out to read/comment on my blog posts,  to the fellow bloggers for sharing their stories and providing me a different perspective. Perhaps if not for you guys, this place would have been long abandoned. This is a small little attempt to discover in the writer in me. Hope you guys stay by me in this journey :)

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Party time!

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I know….I know my last two posts were birthday posts and here I am with one more birthday post. But there was no way this birthday didn’t make it to post here; because the birthday is MINE.

So today I turn a year older and since people turn wiser with every passing year…I am assuming so is the case with me :) Yes you can wish me well and say a Happy Birthday.

I would be just too happy to  receive gifts.  Those of you who aren’t sure what to gift me….let me help you; you can either give me a kindle or a smart phone ;) ! I haven’t made any plans for the birthday as yet blame it on the  depleting pocket.  Such a pity to have your birthday at the end of the month.

But I did have a plan at the beginning of the month.  A few friends and I were to go to Goa for my birthday. I had even thought of taking a loan for the trip!  I spent days day-dreaming about me cutting the cake in Goa and my friends singing “Happy Birthday to you….”  But the plan did not materialize. *another reason you shouldn’t make plans*

So what if the Goa plans didn’t happen as intended; I can make new plans can I not? I am now considering catching up the Sajid Khan masterpiece ‘Himmatwala‘ in Cinepolis!

To prove that I have indeed become wise, I leave you with a quote :

Believe those who are seeking the truth.  Doubt those who find it.  ~Andre Gide

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EDITED TO ADD :

Those of you who were shocked /disgusted at the thought of I watching Himmatwala……let me tell you I HAVE NOT watched it because  good sense prevailed :)

Happy 93rd Birthday!

Happy Birthday to the Man

who loved me unconditionally in spite of all my flaws

who was my first teacher, friend and confidant

who was the best story-teller ever

who departed this world to a better world on a Sunday morning last October

who is always missed but continues to remain in a little corner of my heart

Happy 93rd Birthday Ajja.